This will be one of the VERY FEW times that you will read anything political from me. I don't believe in politics and prefer that it stays with the theives, liars, and hypocrites (you know, politicians).
I have listened for the past few months as people go back and forth about what President Obama has not done for the country. People are saying that he has not created enough jobs for the American people, that they are unsure of how the new health law affects them (or that it's stopping the elderly from receiving medicare), and that the middle class will suffer more of a recession with Obama in office and that is a reason to vote for Romney.
I have NEVER seen a president that fulfilled ALL of his campaign promises until now. I think that some of his goals are a little lofty but the fact that he accomplished everything he said he would do, give him more creditability to me.
Not to be cruel, but Romney can create jobs in America now (no matter who the President is), by stopping his company from outsourcing jobs that Americans can have. Anyone who can not currently afford health insurance should be so grateful for this health care plan, and by the way, the amount that you are taxed, is minimal if you say tou can not afford insurance. But the fact that insurance is becoming universal will make it more affordable for everyone.
Finally, this is the one that irks me the most is the way they talk about the middle class. The reason for the recession was not Obama, he came in as the American public was in the recession. Getting out of trouble has ALWAYS taken longer than it has taken to get into trouble. Plus he's fixing someone else's mistake and first, he had to figure out what he did to mess up the economy in order to find out what he has to do to fix the mess up. Then he has to make sure that he has all the tools do do it with and one of the tools required is a supportive American public.
Sunday, August 19, 2012
The three are NOT one
When I was growing up, I could not understand the trinity idea in religion because I would wonder how the father, the son, and the holy ghost could all be one and the same. I never got it and gave up along time ago. Now there is another three in one that I have heard guys talking about and I don't understand what female made the mistake of letting them continue to believe that they are the same.
The "trinity" that I'm talking about is being wet, coming, and an orgasm. There are men out there that don't get that these three things are not the same. Unfortunately for some women who's significant others I have talked to, they are only getting wet and that is no good for the girl. Being wet is a reflex of your body that protects you from chaffing while dealing with some sorry man. Coming is one step better because that means that you have found a man who at least tries to let you get in, but the ultimate goal is the orgasm that, sadly, many women die never experiencing one.
The problem with men is that for them, the three are one. They feel that she is wet and then their body comes and that is there orgasm. My male friends know that I love them, but I would be wrong if I did not clear up the fact that you are suppose to keep going until you get to the orgasm (for her). It is never a productive relationship when you get yours and she hasn't gotten hers. That's why there are so many women magazines talking about how to accomplish the perfect orgasm and there are so many lotions and toys designed for the ultimate orgasm.
I encourage my female friends to put down the book and lay down the law.... Just like short haired women can weave it if they can't achieve it, men that have a short endurance need to put their mouth in it before they put their head into it.
The "trinity" that I'm talking about is being wet, coming, and an orgasm. There are men out there that don't get that these three things are not the same. Unfortunately for some women who's significant others I have talked to, they are only getting wet and that is no good for the girl. Being wet is a reflex of your body that protects you from chaffing while dealing with some sorry man. Coming is one step better because that means that you have found a man who at least tries to let you get in, but the ultimate goal is the orgasm that, sadly, many women die never experiencing one.
The problem with men is that for them, the three are one. They feel that she is wet and then their body comes and that is there orgasm. My male friends know that I love them, but I would be wrong if I did not clear up the fact that you are suppose to keep going until you get to the orgasm (for her). It is never a productive relationship when you get yours and she hasn't gotten hers. That's why there are so many women magazines talking about how to accomplish the perfect orgasm and there are so many lotions and toys designed for the ultimate orgasm.
I encourage my female friends to put down the book and lay down the law.... Just like short haired women can weave it if they can't achieve it, men that have a short endurance need to put their mouth in it before they put their head into it.
Thursday, May 17, 2012
Final Good-bye
On Monday May 14, 2012, my step-children's mother died. On Wednesday May 16, 2012, my friend Joscelyn Kirklin's seven month old son died. At first I could only think "God, no! This can't be your plan. Why would the Devil do this?" I cried and broke down trying to understand something that was not ment for me to understand.
I did not grow up believing in a heaven or a hell. I never wondered where the dead went because I always believed they went into your heart to help heal the break their death caused. I still believe that they go into your heart and heal you as no one else can, but I now think that their may be a heaven and that God may take people for a reason that may not be clear to us up front.
I think that God took Leona because he knew that KJ was going to be called home and she was such a wonderful mother and always wanted a little boy that God wanted her in heaven to make the transition for KJ easier. I know that our father in heaven never wants us to suffer, and he couldn't stand for her to suffer. There are so many plans that God has for us and the bigger picture is ususally 19" screen for us and God is looking through a 72" so he sees things that we missed.
I'm a mother but I know that the shoes I have to fill for her little girls are too big and I worry that I might fall on my face trying to be there for them. I want her to know that KJ is happy to have her their to take care of him. I hope that she rest in heaven and if heaven does happen to be on Earth as I was taught, I hope I make it there to tell her she was loved and appreciated.
I did not grow up believing in a heaven or a hell. I never wondered where the dead went because I always believed they went into your heart to help heal the break their death caused. I still believe that they go into your heart and heal you as no one else can, but I now think that their may be a heaven and that God may take people for a reason that may not be clear to us up front.
I think that God took Leona because he knew that KJ was going to be called home and she was such a wonderful mother and always wanted a little boy that God wanted her in heaven to make the transition for KJ easier. I know that our father in heaven never wants us to suffer, and he couldn't stand for her to suffer. There are so many plans that God has for us and the bigger picture is ususally 19" screen for us and God is looking through a 72" so he sees things that we missed.
I'm a mother but I know that the shoes I have to fill for her little girls are too big and I worry that I might fall on my face trying to be there for them. I want her to know that KJ is happy to have her their to take care of him. I hope that she rest in heaven and if heaven does happen to be on Earth as I was taught, I hope I make it there to tell her she was loved and appreciated.
Tuesday, April 3, 2012
Child Support
I have a few male friends and whenever the subject of child support comes up, everyone has an opinion. My husband has come to the conclusion that if a woman has five months before she can abort a child (deciding that she doesn't want to be a mother), a man should have five months from the time that he discovers that he's a child's father to decide if he wants to be a father. I see his point in a way, but I have an opinion that's a little different, but not much. I may be critized for this one by a lot of women but I think that I'm being fair.
I think that if a woman has a right to have the baby or abort the baby, if the father tells the woman in the beginning that he doesn't want the baby, she should not demand that he supports a child. She would not allow a man to force her to have a child if she doesn't want it. My problem is that there are some men out there who try to get a woman pregnant or irresponsible about using contraception. Having sex is (for the most part) a mutual decision, so I think that outside of cases of rape or incest, the decision on whether or not to have the child should be a mutual decision. And child care or support should be equally discussed for the sake of the child and not the selfish parents.
In America, there are too many children (and adults) being irresponsible on the subject of sex and relationships and therefore there are too many children suffering with a "paycheck" daddy. Wether from divorce or just not thinking before you leap into a sexual relationship, the child should have more than a relationship with his parent's bank account. Then too, I see how some men get so angry with their child's mother for not having their children living or dressing the way they see fit for the amount of money that's being disbursed for child support. If your hair and nails are done, then your child's hair and nails need to be done. If you have on the latest fashions, so should your children.
AND MY BIGGEST PET PEVE is these women who have children with athletes, actors, musicians or anyone with money and get thousands of dollars a month in child support to say that they are not getting enough money. I have no problem with a woman going in to get an increase as the cost of living increases, but you do NOT need six cars and five houses to raise a child. Because if you are really raising a child, they should be in school for most of the year. I can understand having a home that you live in year round and ONE vacation home (because if the only thing you're famous for is having an important person's child, you can stay in a hotel on vactions). I don't understand saying that you need support for a nanny or caregiver for your children if you do not work.
Please women let's learn to be responsible for ourselves and our bodies because there are enough babies out here giving birth to babies. I appaud the ones (men and women) who are doing it on their own. I congratulate the men who have stepped up to be the father that every child needs in his life. I praise the women who figure out how to make ends meet when child support is just not enough. I ask that we go back to the way we were originally taught to handle sex, your body is a precious temple, you must cherish and nuture it. Do not allow anyone in it who will not treat it with the utmost respect. My point is, if you wouldn't trust a man with your car don't give him your body and it will save the state a lot of paper and court cases.
I think that if a woman has a right to have the baby or abort the baby, if the father tells the woman in the beginning that he doesn't want the baby, she should not demand that he supports a child. She would not allow a man to force her to have a child if she doesn't want it. My problem is that there are some men out there who try to get a woman pregnant or irresponsible about using contraception. Having sex is (for the most part) a mutual decision, so I think that outside of cases of rape or incest, the decision on whether or not to have the child should be a mutual decision. And child care or support should be equally discussed for the sake of the child and not the selfish parents.
In America, there are too many children (and adults) being irresponsible on the subject of sex and relationships and therefore there are too many children suffering with a "paycheck" daddy. Wether from divorce or just not thinking before you leap into a sexual relationship, the child should have more than a relationship with his parent's bank account. Then too, I see how some men get so angry with their child's mother for not having their children living or dressing the way they see fit for the amount of money that's being disbursed for child support. If your hair and nails are done, then your child's hair and nails need to be done. If you have on the latest fashions, so should your children.
AND MY BIGGEST PET PEVE is these women who have children with athletes, actors, musicians or anyone with money and get thousands of dollars a month in child support to say that they are not getting enough money. I have no problem with a woman going in to get an increase as the cost of living increases, but you do NOT need six cars and five houses to raise a child. Because if you are really raising a child, they should be in school for most of the year. I can understand having a home that you live in year round and ONE vacation home (because if the only thing you're famous for is having an important person's child, you can stay in a hotel on vactions). I don't understand saying that you need support for a nanny or caregiver for your children if you do not work.
Please women let's learn to be responsible for ourselves and our bodies because there are enough babies out here giving birth to babies. I appaud the ones (men and women) who are doing it on their own. I congratulate the men who have stepped up to be the father that every child needs in his life. I praise the women who figure out how to make ends meet when child support is just not enough. I ask that we go back to the way we were originally taught to handle sex, your body is a precious temple, you must cherish and nuture it. Do not allow anyone in it who will not treat it with the utmost respect. My point is, if you wouldn't trust a man with your car don't give him your body and it will save the state a lot of paper and court cases.
Thursday, March 15, 2012
Let Me Upgrade You
This month has been one of change for me. Some of my changes have been voluntary, some involuntary, and others just plain necessary. I'm not the kind of person who makes friends easily, so if I befriend you I demand loyalty. My husband befriends people all the time and he seems to like 'project' friends. 'Project' friends are the friends that aren't used to having much and everything that seems like a normal experience to us, is the WOW factor to them.
I do not mind to help you upgrade your life, but I have began to notice that some of the people we help to upgrade ends up downgrading us a little because you have to get on their level to understand what they're going through and what they think. So this month, I felt it was necessary to let a few people go because I felt that I was doing too much.
I tried to get on a few old freinds' plane but they never seemed to get off the runway. Once I let go and got on my own plane, I soared. The problem with having friends that are grounded when you're soaring is that they will try to shoot you down. I spent a few weeks dodging the hurt and the negativity that threatened to ground me, then I figured out that I was a fighter jet and shot back at these so-called friends. Once they saw that I was not going down easily, they have left me alone. I've had people ask me if I miss my friends and it took very little thought for me to determine that I loved the clown but I don't need it everyday to make me smile.
Another friend talked me into working my event planning business like I should have been a long time ago. She told me that I've been doing so little with it because I was afraid that I would upset friends who weren't doing anything by doing something that excited me and made me better. So I decided to do the business right the way it should have been. I don't want to upgrade anymore, I want you to be eye to eye with me in the sky and challenge me to go higher so that we stay up together.
Anyone can look into my event planning and the discounts that I'm offering at http://www.bridesmadeconsulting.com/. Thank you to everyone who has and will support me. Sorry for those who don't because I can upgrade you but I won't anymore.
I do not mind to help you upgrade your life, but I have began to notice that some of the people we help to upgrade ends up downgrading us a little because you have to get on their level to understand what they're going through and what they think. So this month, I felt it was necessary to let a few people go because I felt that I was doing too much.
I tried to get on a few old freinds' plane but they never seemed to get off the runway. Once I let go and got on my own plane, I soared. The problem with having friends that are grounded when you're soaring is that they will try to shoot you down. I spent a few weeks dodging the hurt and the negativity that threatened to ground me, then I figured out that I was a fighter jet and shot back at these so-called friends. Once they saw that I was not going down easily, they have left me alone. I've had people ask me if I miss my friends and it took very little thought for me to determine that I loved the clown but I don't need it everyday to make me smile.
Another friend talked me into working my event planning business like I should have been a long time ago. She told me that I've been doing so little with it because I was afraid that I would upset friends who weren't doing anything by doing something that excited me and made me better. So I decided to do the business right the way it should have been. I don't want to upgrade anymore, I want you to be eye to eye with me in the sky and challenge me to go higher so that we stay up together.
Anyone can look into my event planning and the discounts that I'm offering at http://www.bridesmadeconsulting.com/. Thank you to everyone who has and will support me. Sorry for those who don't because I can upgrade you but I won't anymore.
Thursday, March 8, 2012
What Belongs to Me
Good evening all, I know I've been absent for a couple weeks but was doing a lot of work and a lot of thinking. I'm glad I have friends who make me think because it gives me interesting things to talk about with you guys.
First off, I'm a pack rat and while I was unpacking a few boxes from when I moved, I found a feature story that I wrote for my high school's newspaper about having secret lovers during Valentine's Day. Then I've been listening to the new Monica and Brandy song It All Belongs to me. I have to say that I love the song but don't understand the situation. Not that I don't understand break ups cause I've had my share... TRUST ME! Some where good some horrible but I never took anything back from the guy after the realtionship ended. That's what I took the song to mean was leave that sh#t that I bought for you, but my girl took it to mean that she was paying fir everything and now that she's done with him, he needs to leave that sh#t cause it all belongs to me.
I guess your interpretation depends on how you were raised. I was raised with clear gender roles. Don't get me wrong, I think girls can do anything a boy can do just as well or better, but I WOULD NEVER take care of a man where I would have to tell him it all belongs to me. I have always believed in equal contributions to a relationship. But the video got me to looking around me. I know people who, in my opinion, have bought their boyfriend or girlfriend's affections. I watched one person give their significant other jewelry and shoes for what they called a 'gift' but it was my friend's birthday. Then while I was at school I ease-dropped on a chick talking about how she had to pay for her boyfriend's cell phone bill and she still hadn't paid her rent. My question is: What the HELL is wrong with your self worth that you don't know that as long as your man is not dead or disabled he is to take care of himself?
My husband and I are involved in every aspect of our day to day activities. He may not cook or clean everyday, but I don't have to go to work everyday. If the kids are sick or have a parent teacher conference, we both know about it and what is going on. If I bought my husband a gift, I wouldn't take it back if we broke up. But I would not shower him with gifts to stay around. I know that some people say 'well, women get gifts from men in a relationship' but I can't see getting if I'm not giving. Cause as far as I'm concerned, I want your heart more than your material things... after all "It all belongs to me".
First off, I'm a pack rat and while I was unpacking a few boxes from when I moved, I found a feature story that I wrote for my high school's newspaper about having secret lovers during Valentine's Day. Then I've been listening to the new Monica and Brandy song It All Belongs to me. I have to say that I love the song but don't understand the situation. Not that I don't understand break ups cause I've had my share... TRUST ME! Some where good some horrible but I never took anything back from the guy after the realtionship ended. That's what I took the song to mean was leave that sh#t that I bought for you, but my girl took it to mean that she was paying fir everything and now that she's done with him, he needs to leave that sh#t cause it all belongs to me.
I guess your interpretation depends on how you were raised. I was raised with clear gender roles. Don't get me wrong, I think girls can do anything a boy can do just as well or better, but I WOULD NEVER take care of a man where I would have to tell him it all belongs to me. I have always believed in equal contributions to a relationship. But the video got me to looking around me. I know people who, in my opinion, have bought their boyfriend or girlfriend's affections. I watched one person give their significant other jewelry and shoes for what they called a 'gift' but it was my friend's birthday. Then while I was at school I ease-dropped on a chick talking about how she had to pay for her boyfriend's cell phone bill and she still hadn't paid her rent. My question is: What the HELL is wrong with your self worth that you don't know that as long as your man is not dead or disabled he is to take care of himself?
My husband and I are involved in every aspect of our day to day activities. He may not cook or clean everyday, but I don't have to go to work everyday. If the kids are sick or have a parent teacher conference, we both know about it and what is going on. If I bought my husband a gift, I wouldn't take it back if we broke up. But I would not shower him with gifts to stay around. I know that some people say 'well, women get gifts from men in a relationship' but I can't see getting if I'm not giving. Cause as far as I'm concerned, I want your heart more than your material things... after all "It all belongs to me".
Thursday, February 23, 2012
Putting Your Best Foot Forward
My husband has told me that my blog is a girlie blog. I don't know how girlie it's been to my readers but I am definitley about to have a girl moment. I had a young lady come up to me the other day and tell me that she is a fan. My first thought was 'great, someone has read my blog but me'. Then she told me, 'I look for you everyday just to see what shoes you will be wearing. I am such a fan of your shoe collection.' I don't think I could have been happier or more flattered if she HAD actually read my blog.
I know it's ridiculous to some but I have this CRAZY shoe fetish. I don't think that I have an addictive personality, but my shoes are an addiction to me. In school, I'm majoring in Public Relations and must dress accordingly for the job. I, also, have an event planning business called Brides Made Consulting. It requires that I speak, behave, and dress professionally. I have learned that in business, less is more when it comes to your appearance so you may see me perfectly made up, my hair coiffed and a nice pencil skirt or London fit slacks with an appropriate blouse. I have always been a rebel so I rebel against the "perfect business (wo)man" with my shoes. My shoes will range from a pair of red pumps partly covered by my London fit slacks to a purple peacock designed shoe offsetting my pencil skirt.
I love my shoes and the designers who make them. I'm not the biggest girlie girl, but my shoes are the most petite, elegant, and ornate things in this world. So thank you to my favorites Micheal Kors and Christian Louboutin and the more affordable, Guess, Anne Michelle and Wild Rose. You keep me feeling as if I'm looking my best.
I know it's ridiculous to some but I have this CRAZY shoe fetish. I don't think that I have an addictive personality, but my shoes are an addiction to me. In school, I'm majoring in Public Relations and must dress accordingly for the job. I, also, have an event planning business called Brides Made Consulting. It requires that I speak, behave, and dress professionally. I have learned that in business, less is more when it comes to your appearance so you may see me perfectly made up, my hair coiffed and a nice pencil skirt or London fit slacks with an appropriate blouse. I have always been a rebel so I rebel against the "perfect business (wo)man" with my shoes. My shoes will range from a pair of red pumps partly covered by my London fit slacks to a purple peacock designed shoe offsetting my pencil skirt.
I love my shoes and the designers who make them. I'm not the biggest girlie girl, but my shoes are the most petite, elegant, and ornate things in this world. So thank you to my favorites Micheal Kors and Christian Louboutin and the more affordable, Guess, Anne Michelle and Wild Rose. You keep me feeling as if I'm looking my best.
Family Values value...
Everyone that knows me knows how close I am to my family. My mommy is my rock and I helped raise my baby sister. My older brother is my best friend and my two little brothers are the buffers I need sometimes for the things I get into. I sometimes find it hard to understand when families don't get along. My grandmother used to tell us that the only thing we have is each other... our family. So I started thinking about the values that were instilled in me. The most important one to me is that no matter what, you stay close to your family whether you like the family member or not.
My classmates had very strong opinions about the situation with Tracy Morgan and his mother and Madonna's situation with her brother. Some think that he should have given his mother money for her home because when it's all said and done she's his only mother. Others voiced that his mother wasn't acting like a good mother when she put their family business in the media. Some of the opinions that I got about Madonna is that, with the money she has, her brother shouldn't be homeless. Others even voiced that he should be able to get the best rehab. For the record, I think Madonna did offer her brother rehab, but you can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink.
I don't think any of us can honestly say that we had a Leave It to Beaver life. My father died when I was a toddler and my mom and stepfather both worked very hard to provide for us and I have some really great memories of my childhood. But I remember that I wanted to have more of a relationship with my Mommy. I wanted to be able to do more with her. (After all we were surrounded by testosterone.) We have a great relationship now that she has retired and I'm an adult. We can have a lunch or sit down to a dinner because she's not on a 9 to 5 Monday through Friday. I can call her in the middle of the day just because and she's not so busy at work that she can't talk.
Maybe we expect too much out of our family members. No one is perfect and we all have the drunk uncle that's always asking for two dollars or the drug addict cousin twice removed that no one really talks about even though we try constantly to get to and keep them in rehab. Then we have the family member that everyone has given up on. No matter who you are, no matter how poor or rich you are, and definitely no matter how famous or successful you are, you have to deal with family (depending on how successful you are, you have to deal with more of your family than others). We don't have to be in their lives constantly or allow them over for tea and cucumber sandwiches, but they do affect our lives in some manner.
The lesson I learned from my grandmother is that you encourage your family member who may not have aspired to be where you are or to the heights that you're climbing to. You can't put them down and hope that 'tough love' or ignoring the person will make them become a better person. If you have that drunk uncle, don't just tell him to go to an AA meeting... accompany him to the meetings. If you have an addict cousin, go with them to decide on a comfortable rehab for them. If you have a family member that's incarcerated, don't give up on them...go visit them on the weekends, send them money to get what their food, hygene or stationary items, and write them so that they do not feel as if one bad decision will determine their family value.
I'm guilty of the tough love approach but it did not make the situation better and it definitely did not improve our relationship. So it's hard to put up with family and their issues when you have so many of your own, but in the long run, if you saved their spirit or their life, isn't it worth it?
My classmates had very strong opinions about the situation with Tracy Morgan and his mother and Madonna's situation with her brother. Some think that he should have given his mother money for her home because when it's all said and done she's his only mother. Others voiced that his mother wasn't acting like a good mother when she put their family business in the media. Some of the opinions that I got about Madonna is that, with the money she has, her brother shouldn't be homeless. Others even voiced that he should be able to get the best rehab. For the record, I think Madonna did offer her brother rehab, but you can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink.
I don't think any of us can honestly say that we had a Leave It to Beaver life. My father died when I was a toddler and my mom and stepfather both worked very hard to provide for us and I have some really great memories of my childhood. But I remember that I wanted to have more of a relationship with my Mommy. I wanted to be able to do more with her. (After all we were surrounded by testosterone.) We have a great relationship now that she has retired and I'm an adult. We can have a lunch or sit down to a dinner because she's not on a 9 to 5 Monday through Friday. I can call her in the middle of the day just because and she's not so busy at work that she can't talk.
Maybe we expect too much out of our family members. No one is perfect and we all have the drunk uncle that's always asking for two dollars or the drug addict cousin twice removed that no one really talks about even though we try constantly to get to and keep them in rehab. Then we have the family member that everyone has given up on. No matter who you are, no matter how poor or rich you are, and definitely no matter how famous or successful you are, you have to deal with family (depending on how successful you are, you have to deal with more of your family than others). We don't have to be in their lives constantly or allow them over for tea and cucumber sandwiches, but they do affect our lives in some manner.
The lesson I learned from my grandmother is that you encourage your family member who may not have aspired to be where you are or to the heights that you're climbing to. You can't put them down and hope that 'tough love' or ignoring the person will make them become a better person. If you have that drunk uncle, don't just tell him to go to an AA meeting... accompany him to the meetings. If you have an addict cousin, go with them to decide on a comfortable rehab for them. If you have a family member that's incarcerated, don't give up on them...go visit them on the weekends, send them money to get what their food, hygene or stationary items, and write them so that they do not feel as if one bad decision will determine their family value.
I'm guilty of the tough love approach but it did not make the situation better and it definitely did not improve our relationship. So it's hard to put up with family and their issues when you have so many of your own, but in the long run, if you saved their spirit or their life, isn't it worth it?
Friday, February 17, 2012
TS... support U?
It is accepted that other cultures have an immense respect for where they came from whether it is acceptable by Americans or not. But many of these people did not have the struggles and history as an African American. No other ethnicity was bought into the United States in masses for no other reason than servitude. No other ethnicity has continually been seen as uneducated, lazy, and unmotivated. Other cultures and ethnicities are applauded for the work that they do and the miles they traveled to get to where they are now. The only time our black men seem to be applauded in the media is in sports and music. This could explain why so many of our boys believe that their only ways of improvement are in these areas. As a child, I was taught the love and respect that an African American should have in not only their people and their history but also in their education. My grandmother was not even considered as worthy to attend a college based on her color. My great grandmother was a sharecropper. But my mom, grandma, and Nana told me from my creation that I could rule the world.
For those who don’t know, I attend Texas Southern University. I do not attend it for the accolades that it has been attributed (good luck finding them within media), I do not attend it because of how highly praised the teachers are (you only find out about a teacher if there is a problem)…. I go to TSU because the school is diverse, it is worthy of all accolades. The teachers are caring and they work with you, not only to make sure that you get out of college but so that you can stand with or without everyone noticing the color of your skin. I always wanted to go to a historically black college or university and for those familiar with the Houston and surrounding areas, Texas Southern is not the only HBCU around. When I went back to college, I chose Texas Southern during the time that they were being crucified in the media for the actions of a handful of people. Those people did not account for the majority of Texas Southern or their staff nor were they alumni of Texas Southern, but the impact that they had on the school was further reaching than anyone then or now would have guessed. News of their betrayal saturated the television, internet, and papers for over a year and with their dismissal, came the fallout and clean-up.
To this day there is very little GOOD press about Texas Southern unless it’s about sports or the band. Yes, the band Ocean of Soul has won awards and performed at Super Bowls and The Stellar Awards and in 2010 the football team won its first Southwest Athletic Conference (SWAC) Championship in 42 years, but the radio station KTSU is number one overall of Houston/Galveston stations for its Sunday format and its Friday format of Golden Oldies. I just want to highlight some of the good about Texas Southern University. First it is one of only four independent public universities in Texas. This means that Texas Southern is not affiliated with any of the six public university systems in Texas. It is, also, one of the largest and the most comprehensive HBCUs in the nation. The Jesse H. Jones School of Business was named one of the ‘Best 300 Business Schools ‘ by the Princeton Review in 2008 and was recognized as one of the nation’s ‘Best Business Schools’ by the U.S. News & World Report in 2010. The College of Science and Technology houses research programs like the NASA University Research Center for Bio-Nanotechnology and Environmental Research, the Maritime Transportation Studies and Research, as well as the STEM research program. The Thurgood Marshall School of Law has been consistently ranked number one in achieving diversification in its student body. In the fall of 2010, Texas Southern University partnered with Lone Star College in Northwest Houston to make education easier to get to for that side of town. In conjunction with the City of Houston and Houston Public Library, Texas Southern will begin to offer fine arts classes with theatre and dance performances in the historic Deluxe Theater in Houston’s Fifth Ward.
I understand that what has happened in the past may put people off to TSU but no one likes for their past to affect their future. So I encourage all those who attend TSU and those who are just in the Houston and surrounding areas to support Texas Southern University.
Hoe or Housewife
Ok, some friends and I were watching the TV show The Game. If you haven't seen it, you should... it's a great show. The character Melanie told her husband Derwin that she wanted to have more of a say in his career and he told her that he just wanted her to be there for sex and no more of a say. It may seem funny but I have found out that there are some men out here who do not know the difference between a hoe and a housewife.
Let me enlighten the unknowing....
A hoe is the woman that you have sex with for three minutes while you think it's three hours and she doesn't pretend it's good, but she can go on to another man who will be better. You give her some money and let her be on her way. She has it GOOD!
A housewife is the woman that has sex with you for three minutes while you think it's three hours, she has to pretend it's the best sex ever and then she has to buy a vibrator to give her the orgasm you denied her. And then she gets up to clean the house, cook, wash clothes, take care of the kids, and now-a-days, go to work outside of the home. She's SCREWED over!
So let me know fellas do you want your girl to be your hoe or your housewife? For what you pay your wife, she would be better off being a hoe. I know that there are alot of women out here who would agree that if all they had to do was screw their husbands and not have to take on any other responsibilities, they would be more than happy to. If you just want someone to screw, you find you a hoe cause that is all she'll do for you. When you want to be taken care of and supported, you get a housewife. Hence the phrase, 'you can't turn a hoe into a housewife'. See the difference, yet?
You can never turn a hoe into a housewife, but let me let you in on a secret... you can turn YOUR housewife into YOUR hoe. These are the three steps how:
1. Show and tell her that you appreciate everything that she does to keep the house running smoothly (cause you know that's not you keeping the kids from burning it down).
2. Compliment her appearance. It seems small but the greatest thing a woman can hear is her man telling her that she looks wonderful. I went around for a month with my hair forever in a ponytail and no make-up while I tried to get some household things in order... my husband's reply was your beautiful. I knew I looked a mess but he got more sex that month than any other month in our marriage.
3. DO NOT BE SELFISH IN BED. I know Bernie Mac says 'I got mine, she better get hers' but outside of comedy, that doesn't work well. If you continually get yours before she gets hers, your relationship will turn into a joke cause she'll be out getting hers while your thinking you got yours (and her).
Follow those few steps and your set. Not only will you have a woman who will support you mentally and emotionally, you will have a woman who will screw you at anytime, in anyway, as much as you want and need it.
Let me enlighten the unknowing....
A hoe is the woman that you have sex with for three minutes while you think it's three hours and she doesn't pretend it's good, but she can go on to another man who will be better. You give her some money and let her be on her way. She has it GOOD!
A housewife is the woman that has sex with you for three minutes while you think it's three hours, she has to pretend it's the best sex ever and then she has to buy a vibrator to give her the orgasm you denied her. And then she gets up to clean the house, cook, wash clothes, take care of the kids, and now-a-days, go to work outside of the home. She's SCREWED over!
So let me know fellas do you want your girl to be your hoe or your housewife? For what you pay your wife, she would be better off being a hoe. I know that there are alot of women out here who would agree that if all they had to do was screw their husbands and not have to take on any other responsibilities, they would be more than happy to. If you just want someone to screw, you find you a hoe cause that is all she'll do for you. When you want to be taken care of and supported, you get a housewife. Hence the phrase, 'you can't turn a hoe into a housewife'. See the difference, yet?
You can never turn a hoe into a housewife, but let me let you in on a secret... you can turn YOUR housewife into YOUR hoe. These are the three steps how:
1. Show and tell her that you appreciate everything that she does to keep the house running smoothly (cause you know that's not you keeping the kids from burning it down).
2. Compliment her appearance. It seems small but the greatest thing a woman can hear is her man telling her that she looks wonderful. I went around for a month with my hair forever in a ponytail and no make-up while I tried to get some household things in order... my husband's reply was your beautiful. I knew I looked a mess but he got more sex that month than any other month in our marriage.
3. DO NOT BE SELFISH IN BED. I know Bernie Mac says 'I got mine, she better get hers' but outside of comedy, that doesn't work well. If you continually get yours before she gets hers, your relationship will turn into a joke cause she'll be out getting hers while your thinking you got yours (and her).
Follow those few steps and your set. Not only will you have a woman who will support you mentally and emotionally, you will have a woman who will screw you at anytime, in anyway, as much as you want and need it.
Monday, February 13, 2012
Whitney Elizabeth Houston 1963-2012
Good Afternoon to everyone who may be still as shocked and hurt by the death of the icon Whitney Elizabeth Houston. I am one of the biggest skeptics you may ever encounter so when my husband's friend called him telling him that Whitney Houston was dead, I was like 'yeah, ok'. But not even two seconds later, I get a email from my NY Times online subscription saying 'Whitney Houston Dead, at 48'. I couldn't catch my breath at first then I had decided that it was a death hoax and that she was going to release a statement saying "I'm not dead, yet." What made it real for me was when I saw a picture of a very distraught Bobbi Kristina.
It is that young lady that I feel for right now. In the press' eagerness to put SOMETHING out there, they have just about put ANYTHING out there. They have reported that Ray J was with her when she died and was the one who discovered the body. They have said implied that she was using drugs again and that was a possible cause of death. I was listening to the radio this morning where they had on a young 'journalist' (and I use the word loosely) who recalled Whitney Houston's last interview. She mentioned how Ms. Houston was at the interview with her hair wet and 'not dressed' like the way you would think an icon should look, 'especially since you're already so criticized'. Not once did she mention that Whitney Houston was with her daughter, Bobbie Kristina, at the pool and that could be an explanation for her wet hair. Nor did anyone ever think that because you are an icon, doesn't mean that you have to WANT or try to be perfect at all times. By the way, Whitney Houston was planning a surprise party for Brandy for that night which probably had something to do with the note that the viral feed showed Whitney passing to Brandy.
My point is that the autopsy has not come out as of yet and for people to continually put the negative out there is bad journalism and is very hurtful to Bobbi Kristina. She is a young woman who has just lost her best friend and her mother all in one. It hurts my heart to know that she has to go through such an emotional period of time WITH ALL EYES ON HER and most of the people who are leering have nothing nice to say about her mother. I'm shedding tears for her because it's never easy to lose anyone you love but a parent, a friend, a mentor...
Even if she was on crack, prescription drugs, or just high off life, a real journalist knows that you are to report the facts of what is happening without your opinion of what it looks like to you. "It's not right, but it's ok..." - Whitney Houston
Whitney Houston was as much an inspiration for me as she was for other singers: professional like Christina Aguilera and Beyone and the shower singers like me. I remember winning my first talent contest singing my rendition of The Greatest Love of All. I was motivated to try my hand at singing again when I heard her sing the Star Spangled Banner.
I shed tears for who she was.
For how her entrance started a buzz.
I shed tears for what she went through.
Even though you were glad she wasn't you still wished she was you.
I shed tears for what she wanted to do.
Everyday she showed she loved Bobbi Kristina and, with Sparkle, she showed she loved us too.
Rest in Peace Whitney Elizabeth Houston. I hope you find with God the serenity you could not find with his creatures here on Earth.
August 9, 1963- February 11, 2012
I shed tears for all those she left here to morn her star brighting the heavens.
It is that young lady that I feel for right now. In the press' eagerness to put SOMETHING out there, they have just about put ANYTHING out there. They have reported that Ray J was with her when she died and was the one who discovered the body. They have said implied that she was using drugs again and that was a possible cause of death. I was listening to the radio this morning where they had on a young 'journalist' (and I use the word loosely) who recalled Whitney Houston's last interview. She mentioned how Ms. Houston was at the interview with her hair wet and 'not dressed' like the way you would think an icon should look, 'especially since you're already so criticized'. Not once did she mention that Whitney Houston was with her daughter, Bobbie Kristina, at the pool and that could be an explanation for her wet hair. Nor did anyone ever think that because you are an icon, doesn't mean that you have to WANT or try to be perfect at all times. By the way, Whitney Houston was planning a surprise party for Brandy for that night which probably had something to do with the note that the viral feed showed Whitney passing to Brandy.
My point is that the autopsy has not come out as of yet and for people to continually put the negative out there is bad journalism and is very hurtful to Bobbi Kristina. She is a young woman who has just lost her best friend and her mother all in one. It hurts my heart to know that she has to go through such an emotional period of time WITH ALL EYES ON HER and most of the people who are leering have nothing nice to say about her mother. I'm shedding tears for her because it's never easy to lose anyone you love but a parent, a friend, a mentor...
Even if she was on crack, prescription drugs, or just high off life, a real journalist knows that you are to report the facts of what is happening without your opinion of what it looks like to you. "It's not right, but it's ok..." - Whitney Houston
Whitney Houston was as much an inspiration for me as she was for other singers: professional like Christina Aguilera and Beyone and the shower singers like me. I remember winning my first talent contest singing my rendition of The Greatest Love of All. I was motivated to try my hand at singing again when I heard her sing the Star Spangled Banner.
I shed tears for who she was.
For how her entrance started a buzz.
I shed tears for what she went through.
Even though you were glad she wasn't you still wished she was you.
I shed tears for what she wanted to do.
Everyday she showed she loved Bobbi Kristina and, with Sparkle, she showed she loved us too.
Rest in Peace Whitney Elizabeth Houston. I hope you find with God the serenity you could not find with his creatures here on Earth.
August 9, 1963- February 11, 2012
I shed tears for all those she left here to morn her star brighting the heavens.
Thursday, February 9, 2012
Fashion Since...?
I read an article on the web about a French Elle magazine blog that has me more than a little ruffled. The article is about French Elle's blogger, Nathalie Dolivo, blog on the 'black fashion renaissance'. She says that the First couple has inspired black people to get style sense. It stated that before Michelle and Barack Obama inspired black Americans to become chic we had something that could be defined as 'streetwear codes'. What the hell is streetwear? When you go on the street I would hope you had something to wear. But you know what streetwear is... the stereotypical saggy jeans, big bamboo earrings and general 'I don't give a sh*t what you think of me' clothing. I don't know about you but I have never let my pants hang purposely below my ass nor do I own a pair of bamboo earrings. To make it worse, she then goes on to say the the First lady, Mrs. Michelle Obama has 'helped blacks adopt a white code' of dress and that her wardrope is reminiscent of 'Jackie O. in a jazzy way'. What is a 'jazzy way'? you may ask. Jazzy is described by Ms. Dolivo to include shells, African robes, and other ethnic articles ie. bamboo earrings. I must have missed a few of Mrs. Obama's appearances because I've never seen this 'jazzy way'.
I'm disappointed with Ms. Dolivo and her interpretation on black fashion over the years, but I'm mad as hell at our young black people for even putting that impression out there. I went past a high school as the kids were getting out and I caught a glimpse of the bamboo earrings, baggy jeans wear. I have never know a person to get a job dressed that way and they never will if they do not evolve. But I have seen pictures of my younger styles. We all wish we can burn some of those pictures like we did the clothes.
My point is as a child we think as a child and are forever changing and reinventing ourselves, our mindsets, and yes... our fashion sense. I can honestly say that most African American ADULTS have long evolved from the baggy jeans and bamboo earrings to the belt around the waist and diamond studs without adopting 'black geoisie'. For those who are probably trying to Google this phrase to figure out what this is... Ms. Dolivo coined this phrase to describe the blacks who have adopted 'white codes' while maintaining their blackness. (Fist in the air. REALLY?) So please all future journalist, be aware of what you are writing and what stereotypes you may be embracing because the wrong thing said can give you so much pain later.
Thank you Mommy for teaching me that my first impression may be the last one I get so be sure of the impression I want to give before I open the door.
I'm disappointed with Ms. Dolivo and her interpretation on black fashion over the years, but I'm mad as hell at our young black people for even putting that impression out there. I went past a high school as the kids were getting out and I caught a glimpse of the bamboo earrings, baggy jeans wear. I have never know a person to get a job dressed that way and they never will if they do not evolve. But I have seen pictures of my younger styles. We all wish we can burn some of those pictures like we did the clothes.
My point is as a child we think as a child and are forever changing and reinventing ourselves, our mindsets, and yes... our fashion sense. I can honestly say that most African American ADULTS have long evolved from the baggy jeans and bamboo earrings to the belt around the waist and diamond studs without adopting 'black geoisie'. For those who are probably trying to Google this phrase to figure out what this is... Ms. Dolivo coined this phrase to describe the blacks who have adopted 'white codes' while maintaining their blackness. (Fist in the air. REALLY?) So please all future journalist, be aware of what you are writing and what stereotypes you may be embracing because the wrong thing said can give you so much pain later.
Thank you Mommy for teaching me that my first impression may be the last one I get so be sure of the impression I want to give before I open the door.
Friday, February 3, 2012
Ms. Independent, Ms. Understood, or with Mr. Wrong
I had a friend who told me that he can't stand these 'golddiggers', so I told him that the only men that are angry with golddiggers are the ones that have brass mines. If you have a platinum mine you don't worry about the gold.
My question is why do men say that they want Ms. Independent. They want the woman to be able to provide her own home, hummer, and hedgefund. But when the woman can provide these things for herself a man will say that she's doing too much or feel insecure about what she is able to provide for herself.
Are women Ms. Independent or Ms. Understood?
I'm happy to be lucky enough to be married to a very wonderful, patient, and supportive man, but I have seen some friends in relationships with men that I have to question both my friend and her man.
In this day and age a woman can do almost anything on her own. You can bring home the bacon and fry it up in the pan (that you bought). If you want a family, you can do that too without having a man in your life. If you CHOOSE to have a relationship, shouldn't you choose to make it work? So my question is... have we as women become too independent or are we just Ms. Understood?
Ms. Independent: It's been my belief that a woman can do anything a man can do just as well if not better, but if you want a man in your life, he cannot FEEL as if he's a non-essential. Just like you have to get up in the morning and shower, brush your teeth, comb your hair, and put on jewelry and make-up, you have to put the spunk in your man's day. Make sure he knows you appreciate him just as much as your Dove, Crest, M.A.C., and Neil Lane. If you choose to be in a relationship. It doesn't mean that you have to have a (wo)man in your life. It just means that you want that person there. If you WANT that person there, shouldn't you make it where they want to be there?
Ms. Understood: I do not flaunt my accomplishments to make you feel like you missed the boat. Everyone wants to be praised and congratulated on a job well done. The most important person to hear this from is your mate. I know that the outside world's opinion of me doesn't always matter because when it's all said and done, only my husband and children know exactly how much I had to sacrifice and what I went through to get the world's praise. So if your mate isn't praising you it can feel disheartening and may make you boost up your own praise of yourself.
Mr. Wrong: Don't get it twisted and think that I just mean men with this part... it can be either or. If you are intimidated by the success of your mate that is because you have not come along to the point that you want to be at. Work harder on getting where you want to be and your significant other will support you (if they're a good fit). If you cannot give and recieve support, that relationship is all WRONG for you. Get out while you may be friends down the line.
I'd like to thank my wonderful husband for all the love and support that he gives me everyday and the way that he always has my back so when I'm struggling, he's the one giving me the lift to get a leg up on everyone else. Not only do I want him in my life, I need him to want to be there.
My question is why do men say that they want Ms. Independent. They want the woman to be able to provide her own home, hummer, and hedgefund. But when the woman can provide these things for herself a man will say that she's doing too much or feel insecure about what she is able to provide for herself.
Are women Ms. Independent or Ms. Understood?
I'm happy to be lucky enough to be married to a very wonderful, patient, and supportive man, but I have seen some friends in relationships with men that I have to question both my friend and her man.
In this day and age a woman can do almost anything on her own. You can bring home the bacon and fry it up in the pan (that you bought). If you want a family, you can do that too without having a man in your life. If you CHOOSE to have a relationship, shouldn't you choose to make it work? So my question is... have we as women become too independent or are we just Ms. Understood?
Ms. Independent: It's been my belief that a woman can do anything a man can do just as well if not better, but if you want a man in your life, he cannot FEEL as if he's a non-essential. Just like you have to get up in the morning and shower, brush your teeth, comb your hair, and put on jewelry and make-up, you have to put the spunk in your man's day. Make sure he knows you appreciate him just as much as your Dove, Crest, M.A.C., and Neil Lane. If you choose to be in a relationship. It doesn't mean that you have to have a (wo)man in your life. It just means that you want that person there. If you WANT that person there, shouldn't you make it where they want to be there?
Ms. Understood: I do not flaunt my accomplishments to make you feel like you missed the boat. Everyone wants to be praised and congratulated on a job well done. The most important person to hear this from is your mate. I know that the outside world's opinion of me doesn't always matter because when it's all said and done, only my husband and children know exactly how much I had to sacrifice and what I went through to get the world's praise. So if your mate isn't praising you it can feel disheartening and may make you boost up your own praise of yourself.
Mr. Wrong: Don't get it twisted and think that I just mean men with this part... it can be either or. If you are intimidated by the success of your mate that is because you have not come along to the point that you want to be at. Work harder on getting where you want to be and your significant other will support you (if they're a good fit). If you cannot give and recieve support, that relationship is all WRONG for you. Get out while you may be friends down the line.
I'd like to thank my wonderful husband for all the love and support that he gives me everyday and the way that he always has my back so when I'm struggling, he's the one giving me the lift to get a leg up on everyone else. Not only do I want him in my life, I need him to want to be there.
Bullying or Building
Anyone who went to Lew Wallace High School knows that high school was not the highlight of my life. I have always been too old for my age and more stuck up than necessary. (lmbo) But I have treasured the friends I did have and am grateful to all my enemies because they made me stronger.
Now, there was a little girl who told me that she hates school and the people in it because they make her feel bad about herself.
The first thing I told her is that no one can MAKE you feel bad about yourself. You have to already have the seed planted and the school meanies are watering it. But don't let it choke you because next to the weed of insecurity is the blooming orchid of determination.
I was bullied in elementary school all the way through high school. By time I hit high school it did not bother me as much because I had finally gotten it... the kids that were picking on me had it just as rough or more so than myself. I started to just 'take one for the team' as they say because I understood that it made them feel better to have an outlet for their pain and frustration.
My new motto became, if that's what you say ok, but don't touch. I understand that bullying has progressed since the days I was a child and teen. With the internet, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitter. You can embarass a person on a much broader scale than you once could. I hope that children can find a way to get along but that may never happen and until then, you must be very secure within yourself about not only you strengths (the things that make you Xena Warrior Princess or the Incredible Hulk), you must embrace your weaknesses (the things that make you Gabrielle or Bruce Banner). To some people like me, it's the Gabrielles and Bruce Banners of the world that change it.
Thank you everyone who picked on me or told me that I wasn't sh*t because once I removed those weeds I blossomed!
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