I'm not a person who does the resolutions because by February I've decided that I had too many high abitions and give up. Well, this year, I've curved my ambitions and narrowed what I want to accomplish this year down to two things with one common denominator... they're unfinished business.
I've been working with my event and bridal consulting business since last year and I've decided that I want to expand it so I will work on that this year. I've been writing a book for the last two years and I will complete it by the summer of 2013. I'm not calling it a resolution, I'm not going to stress out if I have a hard time doing eveything the way I want to do it, I'll learn to adapt.
I encourage everyone to stop and decide what is the most important thing in your life today that you want accomplished. Do that and if you have to spend the whole year adapting and re-inventing yourself to make it what you want, do that. Do it for you and your happiness because no one else will cherish you the way you cherish you.
Happy New Year
Thursday, January 3, 2013
Sunday, August 19, 2012
Politically In(correct)
This will be one of the VERY FEW times that you will read anything political from me. I don't believe in politics and prefer that it stays with the theives, liars, and hypocrites (you know, politicians).
I have listened for the past few months as people go back and forth about what President Obama has not done for the country. People are saying that he has not created enough jobs for the American people, that they are unsure of how the new health law affects them (or that it's stopping the elderly from receiving medicare), and that the middle class will suffer more of a recession with Obama in office and that is a reason to vote for Romney.
I have NEVER seen a president that fulfilled ALL of his campaign promises until now. I think that some of his goals are a little lofty but the fact that he accomplished everything he said he would do, give him more creditability to me.
Not to be cruel, but Romney can create jobs in America now (no matter who the President is), by stopping his company from outsourcing jobs that Americans can have. Anyone who can not currently afford health insurance should be so grateful for this health care plan, and by the way, the amount that you are taxed, is minimal if you say tou can not afford insurance. But the fact that insurance is becoming universal will make it more affordable for everyone.
Finally, this is the one that irks me the most is the way they talk about the middle class. The reason for the recession was not Obama, he came in as the American public was in the recession. Getting out of trouble has ALWAYS taken longer than it has taken to get into trouble. Plus he's fixing someone else's mistake and first, he had to figure out what he did to mess up the economy in order to find out what he has to do to fix the mess up. Then he has to make sure that he has all the tools do do it with and one of the tools required is a supportive American public.
I have listened for the past few months as people go back and forth about what President Obama has not done for the country. People are saying that he has not created enough jobs for the American people, that they are unsure of how the new health law affects them (or that it's stopping the elderly from receiving medicare), and that the middle class will suffer more of a recession with Obama in office and that is a reason to vote for Romney.
I have NEVER seen a president that fulfilled ALL of his campaign promises until now. I think that some of his goals are a little lofty but the fact that he accomplished everything he said he would do, give him more creditability to me.
Not to be cruel, but Romney can create jobs in America now (no matter who the President is), by stopping his company from outsourcing jobs that Americans can have. Anyone who can not currently afford health insurance should be so grateful for this health care plan, and by the way, the amount that you are taxed, is minimal if you say tou can not afford insurance. But the fact that insurance is becoming universal will make it more affordable for everyone.
Finally, this is the one that irks me the most is the way they talk about the middle class. The reason for the recession was not Obama, he came in as the American public was in the recession. Getting out of trouble has ALWAYS taken longer than it has taken to get into trouble. Plus he's fixing someone else's mistake and first, he had to figure out what he did to mess up the economy in order to find out what he has to do to fix the mess up. Then he has to make sure that he has all the tools do do it with and one of the tools required is a supportive American public.
The three are NOT one
When I was growing up, I could not understand the trinity idea in religion because I would wonder how the father, the son, and the holy ghost could all be one and the same. I never got it and gave up along time ago. Now there is another three in one that I have heard guys talking about and I don't understand what female made the mistake of letting them continue to believe that they are the same.
The "trinity" that I'm talking about is being wet, coming, and an orgasm. There are men out there that don't get that these three things are not the same. Unfortunately for some women who's significant others I have talked to, they are only getting wet and that is no good for the girl. Being wet is a reflex of your body that protects you from chaffing while dealing with some sorry man. Coming is one step better because that means that you have found a man who at least tries to let you get in, but the ultimate goal is the orgasm that, sadly, many women die never experiencing one.
The problem with men is that for them, the three are one. They feel that she is wet and then their body comes and that is there orgasm. My male friends know that I love them, but I would be wrong if I did not clear up the fact that you are suppose to keep going until you get to the orgasm (for her). It is never a productive relationship when you get yours and she hasn't gotten hers. That's why there are so many women magazines talking about how to accomplish the perfect orgasm and there are so many lotions and toys designed for the ultimate orgasm.
I encourage my female friends to put down the book and lay down the law.... Just like short haired women can weave it if they can't achieve it, men that have a short endurance need to put their mouth in it before they put their head into it.
The "trinity" that I'm talking about is being wet, coming, and an orgasm. There are men out there that don't get that these three things are not the same. Unfortunately for some women who's significant others I have talked to, they are only getting wet and that is no good for the girl. Being wet is a reflex of your body that protects you from chaffing while dealing with some sorry man. Coming is one step better because that means that you have found a man who at least tries to let you get in, but the ultimate goal is the orgasm that, sadly, many women die never experiencing one.
The problem with men is that for them, the three are one. They feel that she is wet and then their body comes and that is there orgasm. My male friends know that I love them, but I would be wrong if I did not clear up the fact that you are suppose to keep going until you get to the orgasm (for her). It is never a productive relationship when you get yours and she hasn't gotten hers. That's why there are so many women magazines talking about how to accomplish the perfect orgasm and there are so many lotions and toys designed for the ultimate orgasm.
I encourage my female friends to put down the book and lay down the law.... Just like short haired women can weave it if they can't achieve it, men that have a short endurance need to put their mouth in it before they put their head into it.
Thursday, May 17, 2012
Final Good-bye
On Monday May 14, 2012, my step-children's mother died. On Wednesday May 16, 2012, my friend Joscelyn Kirklin's seven month old son died. At first I could only think "God, no! This can't be your plan. Why would the Devil do this?" I cried and broke down trying to understand something that was not ment for me to understand.
I did not grow up believing in a heaven or a hell. I never wondered where the dead went because I always believed they went into your heart to help heal the break their death caused. I still believe that they go into your heart and heal you as no one else can, but I now think that their may be a heaven and that God may take people for a reason that may not be clear to us up front.
I think that God took Leona because he knew that KJ was going to be called home and she was such a wonderful mother and always wanted a little boy that God wanted her in heaven to make the transition for KJ easier. I know that our father in heaven never wants us to suffer, and he couldn't stand for her to suffer. There are so many plans that God has for us and the bigger picture is ususally 19" screen for us and God is looking through a 72" so he sees things that we missed.
I'm a mother but I know that the shoes I have to fill for her little girls are too big and I worry that I might fall on my face trying to be there for them. I want her to know that KJ is happy to have her their to take care of him. I hope that she rest in heaven and if heaven does happen to be on Earth as I was taught, I hope I make it there to tell her she was loved and appreciated.
I did not grow up believing in a heaven or a hell. I never wondered where the dead went because I always believed they went into your heart to help heal the break their death caused. I still believe that they go into your heart and heal you as no one else can, but I now think that their may be a heaven and that God may take people for a reason that may not be clear to us up front.
I think that God took Leona because he knew that KJ was going to be called home and she was such a wonderful mother and always wanted a little boy that God wanted her in heaven to make the transition for KJ easier. I know that our father in heaven never wants us to suffer, and he couldn't stand for her to suffer. There are so many plans that God has for us and the bigger picture is ususally 19" screen for us and God is looking through a 72" so he sees things that we missed.
I'm a mother but I know that the shoes I have to fill for her little girls are too big and I worry that I might fall on my face trying to be there for them. I want her to know that KJ is happy to have her their to take care of him. I hope that she rest in heaven and if heaven does happen to be on Earth as I was taught, I hope I make it there to tell her she was loved and appreciated.
Tuesday, April 3, 2012
Child Support
I have a few male friends and whenever the subject of child support comes up, everyone has an opinion. My husband has come to the conclusion that if a woman has five months before she can abort a child (deciding that she doesn't want to be a mother), a man should have five months from the time that he discovers that he's a child's father to decide if he wants to be a father. I see his point in a way, but I have an opinion that's a little different, but not much. I may be critized for this one by a lot of women but I think that I'm being fair.
I think that if a woman has a right to have the baby or abort the baby, if the father tells the woman in the beginning that he doesn't want the baby, she should not demand that he supports a child. She would not allow a man to force her to have a child if she doesn't want it. My problem is that there are some men out there who try to get a woman pregnant or irresponsible about using contraception. Having sex is (for the most part) a mutual decision, so I think that outside of cases of rape or incest, the decision on whether or not to have the child should be a mutual decision. And child care or support should be equally discussed for the sake of the child and not the selfish parents.
In America, there are too many children (and adults) being irresponsible on the subject of sex and relationships and therefore there are too many children suffering with a "paycheck" daddy. Wether from divorce or just not thinking before you leap into a sexual relationship, the child should have more than a relationship with his parent's bank account. Then too, I see how some men get so angry with their child's mother for not having their children living or dressing the way they see fit for the amount of money that's being disbursed for child support. If your hair and nails are done, then your child's hair and nails need to be done. If you have on the latest fashions, so should your children.
AND MY BIGGEST PET PEVE is these women who have children with athletes, actors, musicians or anyone with money and get thousands of dollars a month in child support to say that they are not getting enough money. I have no problem with a woman going in to get an increase as the cost of living increases, but you do NOT need six cars and five houses to raise a child. Because if you are really raising a child, they should be in school for most of the year. I can understand having a home that you live in year round and ONE vacation home (because if the only thing you're famous for is having an important person's child, you can stay in a hotel on vactions). I don't understand saying that you need support for a nanny or caregiver for your children if you do not work.
Please women let's learn to be responsible for ourselves and our bodies because there are enough babies out here giving birth to babies. I appaud the ones (men and women) who are doing it on their own. I congratulate the men who have stepped up to be the father that every child needs in his life. I praise the women who figure out how to make ends meet when child support is just not enough. I ask that we go back to the way we were originally taught to handle sex, your body is a precious temple, you must cherish and nuture it. Do not allow anyone in it who will not treat it with the utmost respect. My point is, if you wouldn't trust a man with your car don't give him your body and it will save the state a lot of paper and court cases.
I think that if a woman has a right to have the baby or abort the baby, if the father tells the woman in the beginning that he doesn't want the baby, she should not demand that he supports a child. She would not allow a man to force her to have a child if she doesn't want it. My problem is that there are some men out there who try to get a woman pregnant or irresponsible about using contraception. Having sex is (for the most part) a mutual decision, so I think that outside of cases of rape or incest, the decision on whether or not to have the child should be a mutual decision. And child care or support should be equally discussed for the sake of the child and not the selfish parents.
In America, there are too many children (and adults) being irresponsible on the subject of sex and relationships and therefore there are too many children suffering with a "paycheck" daddy. Wether from divorce or just not thinking before you leap into a sexual relationship, the child should have more than a relationship with his parent's bank account. Then too, I see how some men get so angry with their child's mother for not having their children living or dressing the way they see fit for the amount of money that's being disbursed for child support. If your hair and nails are done, then your child's hair and nails need to be done. If you have on the latest fashions, so should your children.
AND MY BIGGEST PET PEVE is these women who have children with athletes, actors, musicians or anyone with money and get thousands of dollars a month in child support to say that they are not getting enough money. I have no problem with a woman going in to get an increase as the cost of living increases, but you do NOT need six cars and five houses to raise a child. Because if you are really raising a child, they should be in school for most of the year. I can understand having a home that you live in year round and ONE vacation home (because if the only thing you're famous for is having an important person's child, you can stay in a hotel on vactions). I don't understand saying that you need support for a nanny or caregiver for your children if you do not work.
Please women let's learn to be responsible for ourselves and our bodies because there are enough babies out here giving birth to babies. I appaud the ones (men and women) who are doing it on their own. I congratulate the men who have stepped up to be the father that every child needs in his life. I praise the women who figure out how to make ends meet when child support is just not enough. I ask that we go back to the way we were originally taught to handle sex, your body is a precious temple, you must cherish and nuture it. Do not allow anyone in it who will not treat it with the utmost respect. My point is, if you wouldn't trust a man with your car don't give him your body and it will save the state a lot of paper and court cases.
Thursday, March 15, 2012
Let Me Upgrade You
This month has been one of change for me. Some of my changes have been voluntary, some involuntary, and others just plain necessary. I'm not the kind of person who makes friends easily, so if I befriend you I demand loyalty. My husband befriends people all the time and he seems to like 'project' friends. 'Project' friends are the friends that aren't used to having much and everything that seems like a normal experience to us, is the WOW factor to them.
I do not mind to help you upgrade your life, but I have began to notice that some of the people we help to upgrade ends up downgrading us a little because you have to get on their level to understand what they're going through and what they think. So this month, I felt it was necessary to let a few people go because I felt that I was doing too much.
I tried to get on a few old freinds' plane but they never seemed to get off the runway. Once I let go and got on my own plane, I soared. The problem with having friends that are grounded when you're soaring is that they will try to shoot you down. I spent a few weeks dodging the hurt and the negativity that threatened to ground me, then I figured out that I was a fighter jet and shot back at these so-called friends. Once they saw that I was not going down easily, they have left me alone. I've had people ask me if I miss my friends and it took very little thought for me to determine that I loved the clown but I don't need it everyday to make me smile.
Another friend talked me into working my event planning business like I should have been a long time ago. She told me that I've been doing so little with it because I was afraid that I would upset friends who weren't doing anything by doing something that excited me and made me better. So I decided to do the business right the way it should have been. I don't want to upgrade anymore, I want you to be eye to eye with me in the sky and challenge me to go higher so that we stay up together.
Anyone can look into my event planning and the discounts that I'm offering at http://www.bridesmadeconsulting.com/. Thank you to everyone who has and will support me. Sorry for those who don't because I can upgrade you but I won't anymore.
I do not mind to help you upgrade your life, but I have began to notice that some of the people we help to upgrade ends up downgrading us a little because you have to get on their level to understand what they're going through and what they think. So this month, I felt it was necessary to let a few people go because I felt that I was doing too much.
I tried to get on a few old freinds' plane but they never seemed to get off the runway. Once I let go and got on my own plane, I soared. The problem with having friends that are grounded when you're soaring is that they will try to shoot you down. I spent a few weeks dodging the hurt and the negativity that threatened to ground me, then I figured out that I was a fighter jet and shot back at these so-called friends. Once they saw that I was not going down easily, they have left me alone. I've had people ask me if I miss my friends and it took very little thought for me to determine that I loved the clown but I don't need it everyday to make me smile.
Another friend talked me into working my event planning business like I should have been a long time ago. She told me that I've been doing so little with it because I was afraid that I would upset friends who weren't doing anything by doing something that excited me and made me better. So I decided to do the business right the way it should have been. I don't want to upgrade anymore, I want you to be eye to eye with me in the sky and challenge me to go higher so that we stay up together.
Anyone can look into my event planning and the discounts that I'm offering at http://www.bridesmadeconsulting.com/. Thank you to everyone who has and will support me. Sorry for those who don't because I can upgrade you but I won't anymore.
Thursday, March 8, 2012
What Belongs to Me
Good evening all, I know I've been absent for a couple weeks but was doing a lot of work and a lot of thinking. I'm glad I have friends who make me think because it gives me interesting things to talk about with you guys.
First off, I'm a pack rat and while I was unpacking a few boxes from when I moved, I found a feature story that I wrote for my high school's newspaper about having secret lovers during Valentine's Day. Then I've been listening to the new Monica and Brandy song It All Belongs to me. I have to say that I love the song but don't understand the situation. Not that I don't understand break ups cause I've had my share... TRUST ME! Some where good some horrible but I never took anything back from the guy after the realtionship ended. That's what I took the song to mean was leave that sh#t that I bought for you, but my girl took it to mean that she was paying fir everything and now that she's done with him, he needs to leave that sh#t cause it all belongs to me.
I guess your interpretation depends on how you were raised. I was raised with clear gender roles. Don't get me wrong, I think girls can do anything a boy can do just as well or better, but I WOULD NEVER take care of a man where I would have to tell him it all belongs to me. I have always believed in equal contributions to a relationship. But the video got me to looking around me. I know people who, in my opinion, have bought their boyfriend or girlfriend's affections. I watched one person give their significant other jewelry and shoes for what they called a 'gift' but it was my friend's birthday. Then while I was at school I ease-dropped on a chick talking about how she had to pay for her boyfriend's cell phone bill and she still hadn't paid her rent. My question is: What the HELL is wrong with your self worth that you don't know that as long as your man is not dead or disabled he is to take care of himself?
My husband and I are involved in every aspect of our day to day activities. He may not cook or clean everyday, but I don't have to go to work everyday. If the kids are sick or have a parent teacher conference, we both know about it and what is going on. If I bought my husband a gift, I wouldn't take it back if we broke up. But I would not shower him with gifts to stay around. I know that some people say 'well, women get gifts from men in a relationship' but I can't see getting if I'm not giving. Cause as far as I'm concerned, I want your heart more than your material things... after all "It all belongs to me".
First off, I'm a pack rat and while I was unpacking a few boxes from when I moved, I found a feature story that I wrote for my high school's newspaper about having secret lovers during Valentine's Day. Then I've been listening to the new Monica and Brandy song It All Belongs to me. I have to say that I love the song but don't understand the situation. Not that I don't understand break ups cause I've had my share... TRUST ME! Some where good some horrible but I never took anything back from the guy after the realtionship ended. That's what I took the song to mean was leave that sh#t that I bought for you, but my girl took it to mean that she was paying fir everything and now that she's done with him, he needs to leave that sh#t cause it all belongs to me.
I guess your interpretation depends on how you were raised. I was raised with clear gender roles. Don't get me wrong, I think girls can do anything a boy can do just as well or better, but I WOULD NEVER take care of a man where I would have to tell him it all belongs to me. I have always believed in equal contributions to a relationship. But the video got me to looking around me. I know people who, in my opinion, have bought their boyfriend or girlfriend's affections. I watched one person give their significant other jewelry and shoes for what they called a 'gift' but it was my friend's birthday. Then while I was at school I ease-dropped on a chick talking about how she had to pay for her boyfriend's cell phone bill and she still hadn't paid her rent. My question is: What the HELL is wrong with your self worth that you don't know that as long as your man is not dead or disabled he is to take care of himself?
My husband and I are involved in every aspect of our day to day activities. He may not cook or clean everyday, but I don't have to go to work everyday. If the kids are sick or have a parent teacher conference, we both know about it and what is going on. If I bought my husband a gift, I wouldn't take it back if we broke up. But I would not shower him with gifts to stay around. I know that some people say 'well, women get gifts from men in a relationship' but I can't see getting if I'm not giving. Cause as far as I'm concerned, I want your heart more than your material things... after all "It all belongs to me".
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